People say that when life gives you lemons, you must make lemonade, but they never give you a recipe. I’m fixing this problem once and for all. So in today’s issue, I’m giving you one of the world’s best lemonade recipes (free of added sugar or laboratory experiments) and a personal example of how to do this.
Earlier this week, a Google search rudely informed me that within just four days of my new book Eat to Radiate’s release, two separate sites, OnlyBooks.org and ThePirateBay.to, had proudly ripped my content and featured my entire book as downloadable PDF’s on their sites (viruses possibly not sold separately).
For a short while, I was irrationally pissed off. It was the kind of pressure that builds up in your head when you’re so mad that you stop breathing. I wrote a strong email in caps to OnlyBooks.org telling them I would inform my lawyers. I asked Google to take down the links. The lawyer even told me that plagiarism and piracy could cost a perpetrator up to $150,000 in penalties. But the fact that I was the victim was one of those emotional black holes that can suck you into a negative spiral and never let go of you until you change how you think.
So in this post, I share with you how you can escape emotional black holes- how to make lemonade from lemons. Here are four important lessons to be learned from this. But before I go on, OnlyBooks.org backed down pretty fast, as you can see below.
OnlyBooks ran for cover.
Taking Advantage of Your Problems
How can you turn the last rotten tomato that life threw at you into a delightful cocktail, or at least fast food quality ketchup?
It takes me back to 2014 when ESPN featured this sleeping beauty at a baseball game, who then woke with a start and sued the network for $10 Million because they publicly embarrassed him. And while this man tried to milk a lost cause and drew unnecessary attention to himself (1), many people have successfully turned their trash into treasure. For instance, Adele was dumped, but then sang about it and was awarded seven Grammys. So, be creative.
Andrew Robert Rector sued ESPN $10 Million for featuring him sleeping (1).
How will I use this principle to my advantage? Marketing, perhaps.
Piracy is the unwanted sidekick of any book this good. Like any highly acclaimed book or film, bootleg copies of Eat to Radiate hit the Internet in record time: just four days after its release. One of the pirates himself writes in broken English, “I think that Eat to Radiate are great because they are so attention holding, I mean you know how people describe Eat to Radiate good books by saying they cant stop reading them, well, I really could not stop reading.” It’s a must-read.
Okay, I’m joking, sort of. That is a real quote, and in an odd way, it is a selling point. I have even gotten this article out of it! Who knows, it might bring me some good fortune. I am pretty sure if you think hard enough, you can find a way to use your problems to your advantage, too.
Flattery Through Piracy
This brings me to my next point. Imitation and theft are the truest forms of flattery. People don’t steal crap. Decades of surveillance camera footage will prove to you that no burglar targets free toilet paper or gifts from the kitchen trashcan. My thieves smelled quality, and they struck.
Be sure to check your spelling when you create a bootleg product (2).
But I was scared of putting anything online ever again. I was scared of becoming a very old lady that would die under the weight of 100 years worth of sweet little ideas and jokes that she had locked away for protection from the cyber thugs. But I realized that’s B.S.
So let’s extend this to your life: when someone cheats or snubs you, it means that person wants to be like you or to have what you created. It means you are doing something right, so keep going.
Also, karma strikes when people least expect it. Never wish anyone badly, but there is nothing more satisfying than seeing karma in action.
Hide and Seek is Not Just a Children’s Game
The lawyer informed me that PirateBay has been a notorious thorn in the side of large media companies like MGM, Universal Pictures, Paramount, Twentieth Century Fox, and The History Channel. These companies gathered all of their horses and men to take down PirateBay, but years later they are still unsuccessful. Apparently its current leader was once arrested but then fled to Iceland and is now hiding in Russia. The lawyer told me that bringing PirateBay to justice would be a lost cause.
I found it very strange that one person’s resourcefulness could outsmart multiple large intelligence agencies. Nobody should model PirateBay (or any unethical organization), but it shows that when you are resourceful, you can do the impossible. You should never doubt that ability. Go do good things.
Stress Reduction When Your Head is a Jungle
As a high-feeling person prone to stress, I know this very well: the feelings your brain passes on to you are not usually in your best interest. If you think about something long enough, the feeling might wear off, but sometimes you just get stuck there. And you cannot convince your brain to send you good feelings when it is currently sending you bad ones as it thinks about a situation in a certain way.
So how do you tame your brain?
Stress comes because you believe you will not be able to handle a situation. And your belief as to whether you can or cannot handle a situation becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Train yourself to feel strong and confident- it starts with how you feed and move your body.
And as I’ve talked about here, look at your situation differently. What have you learned? What can you feel good about? How are you richer as a result of what you experience? What wisdom, strength, or skill do you have now that you did not have before, or that make you unique? You can convince your brain that your situation is actually a good thing. And in doing so, it will send you good vibes.
Now go make some lemonade. Here’s a recipe for the books.